I Would be Angry Too!
Let me tell you about what I did the other day…So, I went to McDonald’s for my coffee and yogurt (as I do everyday) and the cashier did not give my card back. I didn’t notice it until I got to my kids’ school. I swooped right back around that corner. She was frantic, saying she didn’t have it and that she gave it back to me. I COULD NOT find that debit card so I commenced to tell her “you’ve got my card!”. I asked her manager to pull the tape when the general manager makes it in….all of this in the drive-thru. Y’all, I even called the non-emergency police number to find out my options if the tape showed that she had my card.
Well, you know the Holy Spirit will check you, right? I got to work and it just kept weighing on me to check my car again. I went outside and pulled the mats out, let the front seat alllll the way up – and lo, there was my card stuck between the seat and the middle console. Uh uh uh! I know, girl. I was tremendously shamed and embarrassed. I had been so angry with her and just KNEW that she’d taken my card. After work, I stopped to buy an apology card because it just had to be done. The next morning, I went to McDonald’s as I normally do, but this time I parked and got out of the car. I found her and apologized. I told her how wrong I was and that I was sorry for humiliating her because I DID NOT act like Jesus and my daily goal is to be more like him.
She was completely understanding and even embraced me. I went back today and she greeted me with a smile and told me to have a good day. She could have been livid with me, and rightfully so, but she just explained that it happens and it’s okay.
I said all that to say this:
I have been asking God to help me to see people, things, and situations through his eyes. Most recently before that incident, I repented and prayed that prayer on Sunday. Fast forward to Tuesday and I forgot all about Jesus’ perspective. Jesus who? Ephesians 4:2-3 tells us to live in “humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, EAGER to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” I think Jesus was putting me to the test and I failed with flying colors. I’m talking about gray, dark gray, and all the shades of black! The good thing from this experience, though, was that Jesus got my attention. I was forced to pay attention to my attitude when things don’t go my way or I feel that my husband is being unreasonable, or even when my coworker sends me an email with no greeting that is straight to the point – and she doesn’t even know me like that. Well, what in Jesus’ name am I supposed to do about other people’s crap? I have quickly been reminded several times to do these things before jumping of a bridge, to my demise, because I’m prematurely forming conclusions:
Take a minute to think of what the other person might be going through. What could have prompted them to act the way they did? Is it really worth being angry?
Literally, ask yourself is this the way Jesus would act. Yeah, he flipped over some tables in the synagogue, but that was righteous indignation…don’t even try that, girl.
Ask yourself, “Am I looking to be offended??” I always say that people who are easily offended are looking to be offended. Do I really want to be THAT person?
Lastly, deliberately, I mean intentionally, force yourself to show the love of Jesus even when you can’t find logical reasoning for the way people, things, and situations turn out.
I am learning that it is possible to see things the way Jesus would, but that comes from purposely looking through his eyes.
If you need some motivation to change your perspective, check out this inspiring song by Brandon Heath. LISTEN HERE